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Arrangements for children

Our family solicitors specialise in resolving disputes over arrangements for children. We take time to understand your situation, working with you to achieve the best outcome.

Your children are your top priority. Disputes about their care or living arrangements can be distressing.

Our compassionate and experienced family lawyers help parents in all kinds of circumstances. These include sensitive situations involving allegations of abuse or parental alienation, or where one parent wishes to live overseas with the children.

We help you resolve your dispute, while keeping your stress to a minimum.

Resolving your child arrangements dispute

After a relationship has broken down, it’s often hard to reach agreement with your ex-partner on what’s best for your children. There’s much to consider. You’ll need to agree where the children live (formerly ‘residence’ or ‘custody’) and how they spend time with you both (formerly ‘contact’ or ‘access’).

You might disagree on other important issues such as schooling or medical care.

Once you’ve reached an agreement, you may wish to record this in a parenting plan. Although not legally binding, this helps provide clarity on what you’ve decided.

If you can’t reach an agreement, the family court has the power to make orders in relation to your children. These include:

  • a child arrangements order (which sets out how the children will be cared for)
  • a specific issue order (dealing with a particular dispute about their upbringing)
  • a prohibited steps order (to prevent a parent from taking certain actions in relation to the child, such as moving away).

If you need legal advice on how to resolve a dispute with your ex, please get in touch. We can explain your options and their consequences clearly and carefully.

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Meet the team

 Alex Davies

Partner
Family

Simon Donald

Partner
Family

Helen Fisher

Partner
Family

Katy-Louise Allen

Senior Associate and Collaborative Lawyer
Family

Camilla Hooper

Senior Associate and Mediator
Family

Emma Snowdon

Associate
Family

Louisa Tagziria

Associate
Family

Mairi Woodward

Associate
Family

Our family law experience

Representing a party in a heavily contested and complex Children Act proceedings requiring a challenge of expert evidence and reports.

Acting for an intervener to financial remedy proceedings on a novel point of law regarding their rights of pre-emption.

Acting for an international businessman to defend an application for avoidance of disposition order in a case with assets of approximately £20m.

Frequently asked questions

How do we decide what the best arrangements are for our children?
When you separate from your child’s other parent, you need to make sure that the arrangements you put in place are what’s best for your child. You need to think about what is in your child’s ‘best interests’ – taking into account their age and any other special needs they may have. This is the same approach which the court will take if an application is made to resolve any dispute. Try to put yourself in your child’s shoes and make the decision independent of any emotions you may have towards their other parent.

What is parental responsibility?
Every parent who is named on a child’s birth certificate has parental responsibility for that child. This means that they should be involved in all key decisions for that child, such as where they should live, where they should go to school, and other big decisions such as their religious upbringing or medical treatment. You don’t need to consult with the child’s other parents for smaller decisions, such as their hobbies, but should do so for the bigger issues.

What is joint custody?
The family court no longer uses the term ‘custody’ or ‘residence’ in relation to children, but we understand that this terminology continues to exist outside the court. The focus needs to be on what is best for your children so we now talk about ‘child arrangements’, which includes who a child lives and who he or she otherwise spends time. You can agree for your children to spend equal amounts of time with you both and live with you both, or that they live most of the time with one parent and spend regular set times with the other parent. There is not a one-size-fits-all approach; it very much depends upon what works for your family. It’s important that both parents are involved in key decisions for the children, regardless of who they live with.

How can I see my children more?
If your ex-partner is restricting the amount of time you can spend with your children, the family court can intervene to determine what the best arrangements for your children would be. Court proceedings can be lengthy, expensive and stressful and you should first consider other ways to resolve the disagreement, such as mediation or arbitration.

What is Cafcass?
Cafcass is the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service. Cafcass are appointed by the court to independently advise the judge about what is best for children when there is a dispute between the child’s parents. Cafcass will speak to both parents when an application is made to the court, and may later be instructed to prepare a more in-depth report if the issues in dispute require it. Depending upon their age, Cafcass may also meet with your child to discuss their wishes and feelings in an age-appropriate way. Find out more information about Cafcass.

Can I stop my ex-partner seeing the children?
The starting point is that your child has a right to know and have a relationship with both of his or her parents. The court will do all that it can to promote this relationship and, except in very limited circumstances, will conclude that it is in your child’s best interests to spend time with their other parent. The court will put in place safeguards if necessary and there are sufficient concerns, and Cafcass will advise the court in this regard. If you are worried about your children’s safety when with their other parent, you should first consider whether they can spend time together with some safeguards in place, such as a relative supervising this. It is likely that your ex-partner will make an application to the court for contact to resume if this stops altogether. If you have sufficient concerns which would mean that you wish to stop contact or wish to restrict it in any way (such as requiring it to be in a contact centre), then you should take advice to ensure this is properly managed from the outset.

I’m worried my ex-partner might try to take the children – what can I do?
The court can make an order, called a prohibited steps order, which will stop one or both parents from doing something in relation to the children. For example, a prohibited steps order could be put in place which stops your ex-partner from collecting the children from school or removing them from your care. We can assist with making an urgent application to the court. You would need to provide evidence of the risk to the children; the court will not make an order without good reason. This is also the sort of order you would apply for if the children’s other parent said they intended to relocate to another part of England and you did not agree.

Can I move overseas or go on holiday overseas with my children?
If you wish to move overseas with your children, you either need the consent of their other parent or permission from the court. The court will assess whether it’s in the children’s best interests to move. In order to determine this, the court will balance the benefits of the move to the children (such as being closer to extended family or better opportunities) against any adverse impact to the relationship they have with the other parent. You will need to carefully consider how you will promote the relationship your child has with their other parent and make sure that they can continue to spend time together. If you wish to go on holiday abroad with your children, speak to their other parent early and try to reach agreement. You’ll need to share where you intend to go and give as much detail as possible, such as flight numbers. If you can’t agree, then you can apply to the court for a specific issue order allowing you and your child to go on holiday.

Can I stop my ex-partner changing my children’s school?
Neither parent should change a child’s school without the other parent’s agreement (or permission from the court if agreement cannot be reached). Schooling for your child is an important issue and one which must be agreed by everyone who has parental responsibility. If your ex-partner is threatening to change the children’s school – or has even already made the application to the new school – then you should make an urgent application to the court for a prohibited steps order.

Can I change my child’s surname?
You cannot change your child’s name without permission from everyone who holds parental responsibility. This is normally just the child’s other parent and you should discuss this with them. If they don’t agree or you are no longer in contact with the other parent, then you can make an application to the court for permission from the judge.

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